Perhaps some of you have, at one time or another, taken a step back from your surroundings and asked, “How did I come to be here?” Admittedly, one is most likely to ask this question when something significant has gone completely sideways, but self-reflection should not be undertaken exclusively during dark moments!
This post may be the closest I will offer to a Directrice origin-story.
This is the dress that started it all.
Roughly a decade ago, when I had been at my law firm for a few years, it occurred to me (bing!) that I could wear more interesting clothes and wear them more interestingly. Up until that time, I had been well-dressed (well-enough dressed), but my clothes were definitely traditional and perhaps a little dull and they seemed to be getting duller and more traditional.
And then one day I went shopping for a dress (in. a. store.) and instead of looking through the Dress department that I had generally gravitated toward (Kay Unger, Kate Spade, Lafayette 148, David Meister), I went to the Contemporary section and found this Rebecca Taylor mixed-fabric dress.
This dress is now almost ten years old, but at the time, it was cutting-edge: a silk crepe-de-chine bodice combined with a heavy cotton knit skirt the weight of a Champion sweatshirt, deconstructed construction featuring an exposed back zipper.
The first time I wore it to work, one of my male colleagues (a peer) asked, “You make that dress?”
He could always make me laugh.
But ten years later, I still get compliments when I wear this dress . . . so who’s laughing now?
And why shouldn’t I wear a sweatshirt dress to work? Particularly if I take the time to dress it up with pearls?
It’s worth keeping in mind that if your jewelry, shoes, and bag are impeccable, you can get away with a lot.
I leave you to decide whether I mean bending the dress code or breaking the law when I say you can get away with “a lot.”
I bought this bag on a whim several years ago: iridescent patent leather that shimmers from eggplant purple to racing green.
It was a surprisingly practical selection. It enlivens grey and black suits and dresses.
So what’s the lesson here?
First, you can decide to change your style. No need to evolve or wait for an organic change.
Second, life is too short, and too difficult, not to take pleasure from the little things — like dressing to please yourself.
The Directrice has seen a surge of new readers from Thailand in the last few weeks — very exciting to have you here! Please feel free to leave a comment telling me a little about yourselves: where you live, what you do, and what you’d like to see in future posts.
Everyone have a fantastic weekend!
Dress: Rebecca Taylor: Shoes: Tory Burch; Bag: Car Shoe; Necklace: David Yurman; Watch: Michele